"Not About Love" Is The Third Single From Fiona Apple's Third Studio Album Extraordinary Machine 2005 . The Song Describes The Morning After A Couple Have A Particularly Nasty And Relationship Ending Fight. They Both Have Said Things That Cannot Be Taken Back And Apple Feels Like She Has Seen Her Partner's True Colors. She Makes It Clear That She Is Not Lamenting The Loss Of This Relationship Because She Realizes The Intimacy And Trust Weren't Real. She Is Lamenting The Fact That This Relationship Is Just One More Example Of Her Inability To Find Love And Her Consistent Pattern Of Being Misled Into Thinking She's Found It Only To Discover That The Wool Has Been Pulled Over Her Eyes.